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Too Extreme?

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A thing moderately good is not so good as it ought to be.

Moderation in temper is always a virtue;

but moderation in principle is always a vice.

 Thomas Paine

Complete abstinence is easier than perfect moderation.

Saint Augustine


I use to preach it all the time. Plenty of people do. I hear a lot about moderation ever since embarking on my weightloss journey.

               Treat yourself once in awhile.                                

                                                                   Don’t go all or nothing.                          

                                                                                                                     Do a little at a time. 

I do agree with a little at a time. Changing your life by changing EVERYTHING at once is overwhelming, and not lasting.

However I’ve began thinking a lot about moderation lately. I’ve started to change my mindset about a lot of things, not just in the realm of food and weight but in everything. And some of those changes has me left wondering,  Is it too extreme? Should I be more flexible? Less rigid and opinionated?

I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m okay with NOT going the route of moderation in some things.  As I am going to undoubtedly being posting more and more things both here and on Facebook  that might have people wondering who I am and whether I should be so far on one side or the other of things, I decided to put this disclaimer up with a little bit of explanation.

First, the reason I have posted and will post in the future, is to generate discussion, to make you think, and to get us all being more mindful. Today I posted an article about McDonalds changing their happy meals. This is what I hope that article does, I hope that it makes parents think about what they’re feeding their children. I hope it makes people weigh their options. I hope it makes someone be mindful about their choices. I am not trying to push my own opinion on someone else. I believe there’s too many people pushing ideas on others, and that is what I’d like to fight AGAINST.  My opinion is that nothing McDonalds serves is of any value to anybody. There’s nothing on their menu that is at all healthy. Buying McDonalds is spending money to load your body with unnatural chemicals. Some of that belief is fact (what’s in the food), some of it is opinion (it shouldn’t be consumed by anyone). I just want to pass on education to people. I want us to open our eyes to things and not just accept what we’re given, not just in the realm of food, but in everything.

Second, my choices are not about fads. I’m not going to become a vegetarian because it’s the thing to do right now. I’m going to become a vegetarian because I don’t believe that any of us need meat, I don’t like how the majority of the animals are treated, I don’t want to be consuming all the hormones that most animals are injected with, and because I have noticed in my own body I feel better when I don’t eat meat. For some, being mindful about meat means only buying local, from farmers who haven’t injected their animals with growth hormones and have treated their animals ethically. I fully support that decision. I’m not asking everyone to be a vegetarian. I AM asking everyone to be mindful.

Finally, I welcome people to comment, to discuss things, to disagree with me. What I won’t welcome is rudeness and hostility towards others’ opinions. (I’ve not had that here yet, I’m just putting the warning out there) Comment, Message me, write your own post to disagree with what I said (and send your readers to my page, I welcome the traffic 😉 )

So, what are the things I’ve come to view in an “extreme” way?

*There will be a day when I don’t ever eat meat again, consume soda, high fructose corn syrup, ingredients that aren’t natural, processed foods of any kind, etc. They will not exist in my diet. Clean eating all the way.

*I have no interest in traditional, conventional medicine. I am searching for a naturopathic doctor, and would like to go that route and educate myself more about non-traditional forms of medicine and treatments. This also means the desire to, in the future, have a natural pregnancy, natural birth, hire a midwife, and have a VBAC, most likely at home.

*And once I have those children, I will either selectively, (or potentially, probably , not at all) immunize. I am completely and totally for exclusive breastfeeding, babywearing, and my children will most likely never go to public school.  And hopefully never eat mcdonalds.

                                                   And never date a republican.

                                                                                                  One can dream.  😉

I think there are some things in which an extreme mindset is bad. I think there are some things in which a mindset of moderation is not ideal.

I think it’s about balance. Ultimately is really is about being mindful, having the facts and making a decision. Not a decision based on emotion or gut-reaction, but upon careful consideration of what your decision means for you and for your family.

Participate in your life, in all of it. Don’t just sit and let it happen to you.  Don’t let anyone else control your life. You’re in charge.


Written by No More Tomorrows

July 28, 2011 at 4:36 pm

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  1. I’m probably the most moderation-preaching person you will ever meet. BUT I have a long list of things I do not buy or cook with. Meat. High Fructose Corn Syrup. GMO soy….

    I never eat McDonald’s. But I do occasionally have a small fries from Wendy’s.

    Now if I go to dinner at a friend’s house and they took the time to buy Boca burgers just for me- I am going to eat one even though it has many ingredients I don’t approve of. I’m not going to harass my friends about what’s in their potato salad. And if I were traveling in a foreign country and meat was part of the dinner I was served by a family, I would eat it out of respect for their efforts and culture. That’s what I mean by moderation. I’m not going to let my crazy eating habits make me, or the people around me, crazy. If, once in awhile, I have to settle for take-out for dinner- I’m not going to stress over it. It won’t ruin my life or anything. If my coworkers want to go to the Olive Garden for lunch, I’ll go for the socializing even though the food is barely food. I just don’t want to be one of these people who quizzes the waiter over every single ingredient. I used to wait tables and my thought about people like that is that they shouldn’t eat out. Which I rarely do.

    I think if you’re going to be all or nothing about things, as long as you do it fully aware and accepting of it, it’s great. What worries me is when people say things like “I will never eat chocolate again.” and then spend every second obsessing over chocolate. Far better to just have a small piece than to torture yourself. But you aren’t going to miss HFCS. I know I don’t!


    July 28, 2011 at 4:54 pm

    • Oh I completely agree about making other people crazy. I don’t want to be That Person. I still want my friends to want me around, lol. I would just have to make choices again. Do I eat something before socializing with friends so I don’t have to eat something at the restaurant and can just drink water and socialize. Or do I go ahead and plan on eating there? That’s what I am so grateful about that most places now have online menus. I can look at it prior and make a decision. I also used to wait tables, so I won’t be a difficult customer. Ever. Again, because a lot of places have websites now, a lot of them provide information about their food online, and if not, or it’s questionable, then I go off of that information. My boyfriend doesn’t eat pork, for ethical reasons, so there’s places we just don’t go, because there’s no guarantee that there isn’t pork product in something.

      And I definitely will never say I won’t eat chocolate ever again, because dark chocolate is good for you 😉 And because I can feel guilt-free by choosing fair trade chocolate made more naturally and by workers treated fairly.

      No More Tomorrows

      July 29, 2011 at 8:07 am

  2. I think it’s great you have goals! When it comes to children as with anything be careful you don’t “bite off more then you can chew”. I said plenty of things like “I would never/will always_____ when I have kids” than I had twins and had to make piece with some of those things going out the window! Breastfeeding is a GREAT (the best) option for babies but know it is not an option for ALL people so don’t be too hard on yourself if that or your other plans don’t go well… as planned. Kids need collected, confident parents more then anything else! Good luck in your endeavors into parenthood whenever they shall be. It’s TRUELY is the toughest job you’ll ever LOVE!


    July 28, 2011 at 6:17 pm

    • I think the first step I need to do is make sure that my children’s father has the same ideals as I do and would support me in my choices and make it easier to stick to my ideals. My boyfriend right now, absolutely does, and I’d like to believe that it’s his children I’ll be having someday. He’s not immunized (36 years ago his mother made that decision, and she’s got her doctorate in pharmacology…interesting). He’s anti-public school, he’s been a vegan in the past for a significant period of time, and talks about at least going meatless again, supports not going to a hospital and last night we even had the conversation about breastfeeding, initiated by him. He’s pretty fabulous. I don’t foresee any problems with breastfeeding. I’ve been pregnant before. My son was stillborn, but my body still functioned as if I’d had a live baby, so my body produced milk. If for some reason that doesn’t happen again and after trying everything I still can’t, then I would get donated milk from a reputable place. I just don’t want to start my children out on stuff that’s loaded with sugar and unnatural ingredients.

      No More Tomorrows

      July 29, 2011 at 8:13 am

  3. I am curious…why are you against public schools? As a public school teacher, I feel this statement is strange and harsh. Public school teachers work extremely hard and we are expected to keep up with current classes and information. Private school teachers are not. In fact, they do not even have to hold a teacher cert!

    I would understand if it was for religious reason, but your statement was confusing and offensive.


    August 18, 2011 at 10:27 am

    • I didn’t mean for it to be offensive. I have several friends who are public school teachers. I admire them very much. I think (good) teachers should be in the top 3 wage earners of the nation. Education shouldn’t have funding cuts, they should be getting the most money. There’s probably nothing else in the world (other than health) which is more important than education, and I am grateful for every good teacher I had in my life that motivated me to be my best. The sad truth though, is that the good teachers I had I could count on one hand, and the education I received was not one I would like my kids to have. I thought I was a very well educated and intelligent person, until I met friends and my current boyfriend who talk about things and lose me. Now, not all public schools are that way, I know this. My boyfriend went to a private school and he had an amazing education, but he still points out the areas where it could have been better, so there are good and bad on both ends. My reasoning for questioning public schooling for my kids isn’t religious. One reason is pretty much because of the way kids are these days. I don’t want my kids distracted by the idiots in their school. Kids are ridiculous these days, and I could not tell you how much I admire teachers for putting up with them. That is a position I would never want to touch. Ever. Also, with all the budget cuts made to schools, that’s going to affect the quality of the education. I don’t want my children to suffer because our government has decided education isn’t a priority. And another big reason is due to my stance on vaccinations. There are many schools that require vaccination to allow enrollment. Others, while they don’t require it, make it a pain and an inconvenience to have children enrolled who aren’t vaccinated.

      I don’t currently have any living children. And I’m not pregnant. So, I have at least 6 years before I have to make a decision. Things could go either way in those years. Either vast improvements, or an even more serious decline. When it’s time to look at schooling for my future children, then I’ll revisit the decision. But for now that is my reasoning. I do apologize if I was offensive. I give teachers a ton of credit, and I would never ever want to imply otherwise.

      No More Tomorrows

      August 18, 2011 at 10:38 am

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