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September 15th Weigh In



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Dance Baby, Dance!!

Hello little blog of mine, I didn’t forget you. You aren’t abandoned. I was sick last week, and down, and busy, and don’t have internet at my house and try not to be on my phone when I’m home so that I can show my Man that he’s important to me and give him my attention.

I have a lot of excuses. Some legitimate, but also, I slacked. I just was really in a funk and couldn’t get myself to concentrate long enough to write anything. I hope you’re all still around. I enjoy talking to you, even if it often feels like a one-sided conversation. That’s not a cry for comments (okay maybe a little) but really, I do enjoy blogging and getting my words out there. I have a desire to matter, to leave something behind, to pass on knowledge, to encourage others the way I have been encouraged. I’m a big believer in paying it forward. I think our world would be so much better if everyone felt the same way.

Speaking of leaving something behind, I was listening to Beyonce on Pandora this morning and her song “I Was Here” came on. I thought of me, and the rest of the blog world. Isn’t that at least one reason we do it? To leave something behind? Because we’re worried about being forgotten when our time on this earth ends? So we leave behind something for our great grand children to know us by (Will they have internet then?).

I feel like I’m at a crossroads right now in my life. They happen. It’s the point in which you grow, if you make the right choices. Truly though I don’t know if there are as many “wrong” choices as we tend to think. People hesitate to make a choice a lot of the time because they’re afraid they’ll make the wrong one. The wrong choice is just not making a choice at all. Don’t be stagnant, MOVE FORWARD. If the choice you made wasn’t the best one, then make a different one when things don’t work out. There’s not a magic point in our lives when we choose the “right ” thing and then life begins. Life is happening NOW, so grab it by the balls and go.

Just sayin’

I struggle with consistency, with finishing things. Maybe I’m lazy, maybe it’s fear, maybe it’s doubt. I don’t really know. But I give up easily. It is time to focus my energy on being consistent, on sticking with something no matter how difficult it gets, until I’ve accomplished it. Relationships, running, weight loss, plant based eating, self employment, etc.

A fabulous life is mine for the taking. Yours too. And we have nobody but ourselves to blame if we lose out on something because we didn’t keep swimming.

Keep swimming.


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September 20, 2011 at 9:45 am


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I make plans and then I lose focus. It happens a lot. This is my time to pull it back together and keep going, get out of this funk and move forward. I’m not restarting, I’m just continuing what was stalled. I started out the journey to health really strong, then life happened and I got distracted. I set my sights on building a business of my own to not have a boss someday soon, and got distracted from that also. Couch to 5K began, and stalled.

So this is me taking a moment to regroup.

I haven’t been weighing in mostly because I knew there’d either be no loss or a gain and I just didn’t want to face it. I fell off REAL bad for awhile, and then lately it’s been more of an eating-great-but-not-working-out type of a fall off. When I began this journey, I knew it wouldn’t be smooth sailing, but I also knew this was going to be the last time I said I was getting healthy. I knew this time was going to get it done. I just knew it. So, as frustrated as I am that I haven’t stuck with things as well as I’d like to have, I also know it’s just a part of the journey. I know I am learning a lot, I’m living life, and I’m making the right changes. But it’s time to measure things again. However, I’m not going to do weekly weigh ins. Instead, I’m doing it the way Ben’s doing it. Weigh-ins will be the 1st and the 15th of each month. The number on the scale matters to me, but it’s not the more important focus of my life. So I’m giving it the right place in my life, twice a month. With that I will also be using other things to tell me how my progress is going, measurements, clothing sizes, run times, distances, etc. The number isn’t all that matters.

Call this section “Everything I won’t be eating.”

People talk a lot about not depriving yourself. I don’t like to look at it that way. There are certain things I just don’t need to be putting in my body. Ever. I don’t think that’s deprivation, I think that’s just seeing food for it’s true purpose. I don’t want to see food so much as pleasure as I do as fuel. I want to heal my relationship with food, and only eat what I need.

Part of my desire to change my food is also to combat the PCOS (warning: discusses things of a feminine health nature. If you are squeemish about those things, don’t click the link) I was diagnosed with 8 years ago. I decided to take charge of it and control it. I haven’t been medicated for about 6 years and despite that I was still able to get pregnant and carry to term. The stillbirth of my son doesn’t seem to be because of my PCOS, at least according to my doctors. But lately, things have been looking kind of sketchy in the area of my feminine and reproductive health. (such as having a 70 day cycle instead of the “normal” 28)

More than anything in the world: I WANT BABIES.

So I am taking control of it. I have read a crap ton of information about treating my PCOS naturally. I fully believe that once I am healthy my body will give me healthy babies. Basically the information I’m finding is saying to reduce animal products, eat protein, good fats, low GI foods, Cut out caffeine and Alcohol and avoid white food. So that’s what I’m going to do. I’ve made big steps towards a veg lifestyle and I can say with full confidence that one day very soon I will not be a meat eater. I’ve also found some information to recommend the herbs and nutrients that will control my effed up hormones, man-hair, mood swings, effed up cycles, insulin resistance, weight, and acne (all things attributed to PCOS) I also hear good things about a gluten free diet in treating PCOS, so I’m going to look into it. Basically I have been looking at, how can I cut out all of this stuff and still eat a healthy, well-balanced diet. The answer I’m finding is, pretty darn easily, actually.

Many plans regarding running. First step, get back to Couch to 5K training. That will commence immediately. Basically my only option is to do mornings. So I will be making sure I start getting up early and getting the wogging in. Once the Colorado cold sets in I may be looking for an indoor track or gym, or I may just be sucking it up and dealing with the cold. Especially if I’m going to be taking part in races during the winter. Which brings me to my plans.

I did my first unofficial 5K back in July. Now it’s time to get official. November 13, 2008 was the day I buried my son. I think it seems fitting to run a race for babies that day. I get paid soon and I will be registering for that race. Once that is done there’s no turning back. I either run it or I wasted my money. And I’m cheap, so I don’t like wasting money.

Then, you know… next year is 2012, and there’s 12 months in the year, and I figure, why not also do 12 races?


Yeah, I will begin looking for races once they’re posted and will be doing a 5K once a month in 2012. 12 5K’s in 12 months. Right now that seems crazy, but to runners who do long distances it’s nothing. It’s not like it’s 52 marathons in 52 weeks or anything crazy like that. Who does that?!

Speaking of which…. (omg I must be frickin crazy)

Denver hasn’t been announced yet. Denver may not be a stop on their tour but I’m assuming and hoping it will be since we were so fabulous this year. There is a marathon in October in Denver. They do a marathon and give you the option for a half. I’m not sure the timing. I’ve looked into the training programs for a 5k, 10k, half, and full marathon and if I do them consecutively with a week break in between, it takes me out to June. Basically…

I have my eyes set on a marathon for 2012.

So, there are the goals and plans I have set in place. I fully believe I can achieve them. I just have to get out of my own way.

That’s the first step.

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August 25, 2011 at 2:58 pm

!!!!!!!! Moments

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Remember that one time I got featured in a post by one of my top three favorite bloggers?

Yeah, that happened.


For those of you who don’t blog, think of someone you look up to, adore, etc who really doesn’t know you, like a celebrity, author, etc. Then imagine watching an interview, reading their book or whatever and they say your name. Yeah, it’s like that.

The list at the right are all the blogs/sites that at one time or another have inspired me in something they’ve said, or provided a resource for me (couch to 5K), but of those, there are 3 that I follow religiously. Three of them that stick out to me, that I read all the time, that I have gone back and read nearly all of their old posts. I connect with reading them because they show me it’s possible to do what I want to do in the realm of weight loss. They also show me that once you get where you want to be, life doesn’t suddenly become perfect. Maintaining is hard too. Life happens and it’s easy to revert to the comfort food that made us be obese in the first place. They have humor, and cute significant others they show pictures of, and family and friends and they live life. And those of us who read along are thankful that they let us peak into their lives. And I have been blessed to have an exciting !!!!!!!! moment with all three.

Jen, at Prior Fat Girl, well that moment was the latest. Jen has worked through some pretty major stuff in her life. The sudden death of her mom, and most recently the tornado damage to her house are two things that would break some people. It’s not easy to be faced with things like that and still push through. If you haven’t checked out her blog I think you should, along with the other priorfatgirls and priorfatguy she hosts on her site. Then take a look at the community and join in. It’s better to do things together than do them alone. And finally, because she’s paying for some repairs to her house not covered by insurance, and every little bit helps, you should check out her store and make a purchase.

Jasmine, at Eat Move Write is someone I connected with because I see similarities in parts of our lives. Her interracial marriage and desire for brown babies. The fact that she’s living in the Pacific Northwest as I would also love to do. The personality she shows. I just adore her. Truly. And every time I see a comment from her on my blog, a reply on something I’ve said on her blog, or a comment on something I write on my Facebook Page, I have one of those !!!!! moments all over again. I know if you read her stuff you’ll adore her too. She’s too wonderful not to. And check out her store also.

Ben, decided to Do Life, started a blog, and it became a Movement. I found him via the Couch to 5K site where he was listed under Inspiration. I clicked on his blog, and I was hooked. Then I found out there was a tour approaching and so I started the Couch to 5K program, which didn’t last beyond week 1, but still determined to Do Life, I showed up when he was in Denver and had the privilege of meeting him. I did my first (unofficial) 5K and told him during next year’s tour I will be half of myself. I have a lot of work to do to stick with that statement, but because of all the people who share their lives with us, and show it’s possible, I know I can make it happen. Ben and his Pa have a really awesome 2012 in the works, and your support would really help, so check out the store and make a purchase. Then stay tuned for details about the tour and get out and Do Life with them.

Who are your top three favorite people/bloggers/etc? Have they ever responded to you? Have you ever met them? Was it a !!!!!!!!!! moment as I’ve talked about?

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August 18, 2011 at 9:27 am

What I look forward to

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If you haven’t discovered Pinterest yet, you really should venture over there. But be prepared for the obsession.

I’ve always said I hated shopping. I always professed I was never much into clothing or style. When I was younger I was a total tom boy. I wore baggy jeans, baggy shirts. If I had a shape at all, you never would have known because you couldn’t see it.

I began a job in retail almost 4 years ago and was in it for about two and a half years. As the brand became more fashion forward, I began to have a lot of fun dressing mannequins and creating outfits. I still claimed though that I wasn’t much into shopping.

I’m calling my bluff right now.

The thing is, it’s just not that much fun to shop for clothes when most things don’t fit and won’t look right and the cutest stuff doesn’t come in a size 18-22. I have read countless blogs about going shopping once the blogger has lost weight. I’m jealous. I read another one today, and decided I’d create a new board at Pinterest. (Really, obsessed, join the addiction)

It’s my “After” board. It’s all the things I want to do, wear, buy, etc when I’m an “After” not a “Before”. I look forward to many things, many of which would be the opposite of everything I posted in this list.

Feel free to follow me and see what all I look forward to. Consider it my Visual Goals.

Do you have visual goals you put on your walls/fridge/pinterest board to remind you of what you want?

And if you’re on Pinterest, leave your link and I’ll follow you, if you want.

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August 15, 2011 at 3:09 pm

Too Extreme?

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A thing moderately good is not so good as it ought to be.

Moderation in temper is always a virtue;

but moderation in principle is always a vice.

 Thomas Paine

Complete abstinence is easier than perfect moderation.

Saint Augustine


I use to preach it all the time. Plenty of people do. I hear a lot about moderation ever since embarking on my weightloss journey.

               Treat yourself once in awhile.                                

                                                                   Don’t go all or nothing.                          

                                                                                                                     Do a little at a time. 

I do agree with a little at a time. Changing your life by changing EVERYTHING at once is overwhelming, and not lasting.

However I’ve began thinking a lot about moderation lately. I’ve started to change my mindset about a lot of things, not just in the realm of food and weight but in everything. And some of those changes has me left wondering,  Is it too extreme? Should I be more flexible? Less rigid and opinionated?

I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m okay with NOT going the route of moderation in some things.  As I am going to undoubtedly being posting more and more things both here and on Facebook  that might have people wondering who I am and whether I should be so far on one side or the other of things, I decided to put this disclaimer up with a little bit of explanation.

First, the reason I have posted and will post in the future, is to generate discussion, to make you think, and to get us all being more mindful. Today I posted an article about McDonalds changing their happy meals. This is what I hope that article does, I hope that it makes parents think about what they’re feeding their children. I hope it makes people weigh their options. I hope it makes someone be mindful about their choices. I am not trying to push my own opinion on someone else. I believe there’s too many people pushing ideas on others, and that is what I’d like to fight AGAINST.  My opinion is that nothing McDonalds serves is of any value to anybody. There’s nothing on their menu that is at all healthy. Buying McDonalds is spending money to load your body with unnatural chemicals. Some of that belief is fact (what’s in the food), some of it is opinion (it shouldn’t be consumed by anyone). I just want to pass on education to people. I want us to open our eyes to things and not just accept what we’re given, not just in the realm of food, but in everything.

Second, my choices are not about fads. I’m not going to become a vegetarian because it’s the thing to do right now. I’m going to become a vegetarian because I don’t believe that any of us need meat, I don’t like how the majority of the animals are treated, I don’t want to be consuming all the hormones that most animals are injected with, and because I have noticed in my own body I feel better when I don’t eat meat. For some, being mindful about meat means only buying local, from farmers who haven’t injected their animals with growth hormones and have treated their animals ethically. I fully support that decision. I’m not asking everyone to be a vegetarian. I AM asking everyone to be mindful.

Finally, I welcome people to comment, to discuss things, to disagree with me. What I won’t welcome is rudeness and hostility towards others’ opinions. (I’ve not had that here yet, I’m just putting the warning out there) Comment, Message me, write your own post to disagree with what I said (and send your readers to my page, I welcome the traffic 😉 )

So, what are the things I’ve come to view in an “extreme” way?

*There will be a day when I don’t ever eat meat again, consume soda, high fructose corn syrup, ingredients that aren’t natural, processed foods of any kind, etc. They will not exist in my diet. Clean eating all the way.

*I have no interest in traditional, conventional medicine. I am searching for a naturopathic doctor, and would like to go that route and educate myself more about non-traditional forms of medicine and treatments. This also means the desire to, in the future, have a natural pregnancy, natural birth, hire a midwife, and have a VBAC, most likely at home.

*And once I have those children, I will either selectively, (or potentially, probably , not at all) immunize. I am completely and totally for exclusive breastfeeding, babywearing, and my children will most likely never go to public school.  And hopefully never eat mcdonalds.

                                                   And never date a republican.

                                                                                                  One can dream.  😉

I think there are some things in which an extreme mindset is bad. I think there are some things in which a mindset of moderation is not ideal.

I think it’s about balance. Ultimately is really is about being mindful, having the facts and making a decision. Not a decision based on emotion or gut-reaction, but upon careful consideration of what your decision means for you and for your family.

Participate in your life, in all of it. Don’t just sit and let it happen to you.  Don’t let anyone else control your life. You’re in charge.

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July 28, 2011 at 4:36 pm

A Laundry List

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I’m totally not the blogger that will give you countless posts of what I’ve been up to, and if that’s the kind of blogger you are, then unfortunately I won’t stay a reader.

However, I do laundry lists from time to time and I like to read them from time to time in the blogs I frequent.

So here’s mine…

10 year reunion was cool, 200 and some jello shots consumed, made with vodka, some everclear, some whiskey…


So I gained a couple of alcohol pounds. It happens. Moving on…

My toe is still totally jacked. I’m going to have to come up with some things I can do not involving running so that I can burn some calories and get back to losing.

Enjoyed my days off, and yesterday was spent with the Man, which is always a wonderful thing. We had Indian (my first time, no more indian food virgin) and looked at a few different areas for apartments (for HIM not US) and went back and chilled the rest of the day while I cleaned up the kitchen from him destroying it while I was gone, and then he made dinner, which was, as usual, foodgasmic.

And now I’m back at work.

I need to get on the ball of writing and freelance work searching and gettin motivated to make my own money.

Stay tuned for a post with more depth soon.


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July 26, 2011 at 2:52 pm

Posted in Life, Love, Weight Loss, Writing

All Over the Place

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It’s not that I have nothing to say right now, it’s that I have too much to say, and I can’t really make sense of the mess in my head. No worries, the mess isn’t bad, it’s just chaotic. Ideas and thoughts and all that jazz. Because I can’t really make sense of what’s in my own head, today is going to be full of a bunch of links to things I think everyone should read. I hope to provide you with enough to carry through the weekend in case I don’t get back to you before then. Tomorrow is my friday and then I’m headed back to Kansas for my 10 year high school reunion.

WHAT?! How has it been that long already? Seriously. When did we all become grown?

10 years. Hm.. that just got me thinking of a post idea.  Stay tuned for that. In the meantime, what follows is gonna be others’ posts who have inspired me, not all has to do with weightloss stuff, but just life in general and inspiration in different areas. Please check them out. There’s so many cool people I’ve found in the blogosphere, and because some of them are doing this for their career (which I hope to be someday, soon) visiting their pages and such helps support their livelihood, and I’m ALL about supporting small businesses/self-employed peeps.

Ben Does Life Video Journey – The Do Life Movement started from Ben’s journey. He was in Denver Sunday and that’s how I ended up doing my first 5K.  Pretty awesome. And really, that’s what it’s about, doing life. I want to lose 180 pounds, and get out of debt, and have positive people in my circle, and do the job I love to do, all because I believe life should be lived loudly, however that translates for you. We should be our best selves, not what others expect us to be, not what we settle for being, not stuck because we’re afraid to move, but extraordinary, because life is short, and we should soak it all up while we can.

This is What it Looks Like – A 26 part (short posts, easy reads) series on love. Jasmine Myers of Eat Move Write lets us in on her journey of discovering love, for the man who would eventually become her husband and, ultimately, for herself. It’s beautiful. Truly. Our ability to love anybody else only truly comes after we’ve fallen in love with ourselves.

Jasmine’s Top Posts – (More from Eat Move Write) All pretty awesome. In fact, you really should just go to her page and use her drop down menu to go back in time and read everything she has written, and then start following her regularly. She’s taking a short pause from her blog, so you have time to catch up. She’s pretty awesome. I find it to be a beautiful thing when your spirit connects to another’s even when you’ve not met that person. I know that not everyone connects with the same people, but I think some of you definitely will.

Running is for Crazy People – A Guest Blog at Healthy Tipping Point talking about what her “tipping point” was. Everybody has a moment where they decide that enough is enough and kick it into gear. This was hers. And I enjoyed the read.

30 Lessons My Parents Didn’t Teach Me – Just a freaking awesome post that E-V-E-R-Y-B-O-D-Y should read. Seriously.

Dear Mom, I would give it all back – Warning. It made me cry. Post from Jen, founder of Prior Fat Girl, who lost her mom during her journey, on the day of her 2 year anniversary of healthiness, when she planned on celebrating her 100 lbs lost.  Another one, My mom is dead talks a little more about her journey after losing her mom, with coming to the point of learning how to live without her mom, and realizing it was something she had to do. People wonder how you survive something like that, loss of a young parent, a spouse, or a child. The answer is this, you just do. You wake up, get out of bed, and put one foot in front of the other.

Rachel Wilkerson’s Fourth Rule – Thou Shalt Own It. I truly believe this. Do not every apologize for who you are. That is living a life that is authentic, and that is the greatest gift we can give others, our authentic selves. That doesn’t mean being a jerk for no reason and treating others poorly. It means accepting who you are and not apologizing if you don’t fit a perfect mold that someone else has created for you. Rachel is definitely someone I enjoy reading. She puts it out there. Doesn’t apologize, and makes me laugh, A LOT.  Check out her top posts and her recipes.

Okay, I hope that has given you enough to tide over for awhile. Link us to a favorite post(s) you’ve read recently. Or a favorite blogger. I’m always looking for new people to follow, to be inspired by, to laugh with.

And I promise I will be back with more posts of my own soon. I have a lot of ideas floating around, just need to organize them.  I have a list of “to be written” posts.

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July 20, 2011 at 3:44 pm